Monday, October 29, 2012
Oh, Teenagers.
"Good judgement is learned, but you can't learn it if you don't have the necessary hardware" Yurgelun-Todd. This article was very interesting to me. I find this quote to be so true as well. Most of the time teens are expected to make logical, adult like decisions, but the bottom line is that they are incapable of doing so. This really plays into last week for me as well and the topic of being an involved parent. Teenage children need the guidance and discipline just as much, if not more, than young children. Not only do they lack the decision making skills needed to make good choices, they also have hormones running a muck! I remember being all over the place emotionally as a teen and I am not looking forward to helping my daughter navigate through that tumultuous time.
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I agree that some kids are not capable of making good decisions, but i have seen plenty of kids make smart adult decisions about very important stuff. All kids need guidance no matter the age and I feel at 37 that I still ask for guidance from my parents on certain things. I don't feel that will ever end as long as they are alive. The point is that kids come in all types and some will need way more guidance then others, some will never learn their lesson and others you only need to tell them once and they get it.
ReplyDeleteIt is a little scary to think teenagers are kind of like big children who have an unstable amount of hormones in their blood without the brain development to back it up AND are allowed certain privilages such as driving... I think just the fact that you are aware that raising your daughter when she is a teenager will be some of the tougher years, is a good thing. The best thing my mom said to me when I was a teenager was that if I came home drunk, drove drunk, or if she found out about me drinking I would be grounded. BUT, if I called her for a ride because the driver (or I) was intoxicated, I wouldn't be punished. In no way was she telling me that she thought it was ok for me to be drinking under age, but she kept me safe be supporting good decision making, such as calling my parents if I wasn't fit to drive or if a friend wasn't fit to drive. (Just something to consider).
ReplyDeleteWhen I was a teenager . My parents in no way let me or even encouraged me to drink, and drive, but they told me never get into a car when somebody's been drinking. They said if that ever happened to call them no matter what time it was , and they will come get me. I ended up calling them one time @ 2 am. They picked me up took me home,and I went to bed with no discussion. The next morning we discussed what happened and how it happened , and yes I was grounded, but I never put myself in that situation again. I also never rode with people when they were drinking either. My point is , I think if the situation is discussed, not ignored or blown out of proportion.. teens will make better choices
ReplyDeleteI agree that teenagers can't necessarily make the proper decisions most of the time. But I think it's also a part of life to let them try it out, and let them make the wrong decisions so they can learn full heartedly what to do next time. People who have to struggle and learn things the harder way, really learn things for good I think. I thought the article was interesting. Being 20 years old, just leaving my teenage years and entering adult hood, it's very interesting to read everyone's opinions on the topic
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